The world we live nowadays is a collection of chaos and stressors. People live the same day twice. A catastrophe. The so-called routine: work; earn money; get old; and eventually die. There seemed to be nothing more in this life. We rushed and bothered ourselves with a lot of things in this earth. We exhaust our last strength and drain our last drop of blood and sweat. And at the end we face the mirror, glance at our wrinkled face and grey hair, then we have nothing than a few days left. We took our journey erroneously and we missed to be happy.
We see a lot of people living their lives. They live, but they don’t have a life.
There is a fine line between living and life. Chimpanzees, bees, bugs even trees and the bushes are living, but a life is more. Life means biography and biology. Life means happiness because this is how God designed it. And His greatest purpose is for us to enjoy this journey and have it more abundantly.
The true ingredients of happiness are so simple. Indeed they can be counted on one hand. Happiness comes from within and rests more securely on simple goodness and clear conscience. Selfishness is the number one enemy of happiness. To make another happy is to be happy in one’s self.
Happiness is the only thing that multiplies by division. Many are unaware of the fact that one of the best source of genuine happiness is giving. The widow in the Bible was given a great favor compared to those who donated a huge measure of offering. Because she gave and she lost something as she gave. She felt it and she knows that those pennies are the only things she has. When we give with good intentions and right motives we will feel happy afterwards.
Some people live miserable and seemingly happiness is the most elusive thing for them. They are hunted on their past. They live everyday fretting about what happened yesterday. We can be happy inspite of the unwanted past. Everything happens for a purpose. Forgive and patiently wait for the time that you can really forget. Live one day at a time. Little by little, bit by bit, your heart will forgive and your soul will get healed. Love those people who hate you. Someday you will look back and you can be happy and you can smile because you know you’d love them even if they hated you.
Envy is the number one reason of unhappiness. And jealousy is its cousin. These two are used interchangeably. Envy is you feel unhappy when you see others succeed while jealousy is you are successful but you never had enough you still want to get what others have. To be happy is to get rid of these two.
Many had already tried defining happiness. Millions of self-help books had been published. But still, people struggle is now century age challenge on how to really be happy. They said, family and relationships are the most important things to pay attention to be happy. Some people said self actualization. But are they really are?
William Henry Channing, Chaplain of the U.S. House of Representatives in the middle of the last century said that, "to live contented with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury and refinement rather than fashion; to be worthy not respectable, and wealthy not rich; to study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly; to listen to the birds and the stars, to babes and sages with open heart; to bear all cheerfully, do all bravely, await occasions, hurry never, in a world to let the spiritual unbidden and unconscious grow through the common.”
You will notice that no one and nothing can do happiness for you. You must do it for yourself.